Money Versus Sex

Here are some interesting stats I found in the July issue of Money magazine:

Percentage who think couples should talk more about money:

• Men -- 21%
• Women -- 33%

Percentage who think couples should talk more about sex:

• Men -- 29%
• Women -- 15%

Ha! What a shocker, huh? ;-)

A few thoughts from me:

1. One-third of women want to talk more about money. This seems like a fairly high number to me. Many must be in the dark about their finances.

2. Though I expected men to score higher on the sex question, I'm surprised so many wanted to "talk" more about it. What is there to talk about?

3. Would the questions be better if they were "percentage who think couples should spend more time managing their money" and "percentage who think couples should spend more time having sex"? Now THOSE would be interesting responses!

Comments

[Lauren]

I may be in the minority on this, but I feel like my husband and I should talk more about money because we need to make sure we're making smart investments and saving appropriately. We're in a little bit of a chaotic time right now so really talking through everything is important. And he's more like, "Why don't you just call the broker/CPA/your mom and decide?" I feel like it should be more joint decisions. As is, I control all the finances and now I am also controlling all the investments and savings plans. So maybe more women are in the same boat and that's why they'd like to talk about it more - not because they're in the dark on it.

[conedude13]

My wife and i need to spend more time going over our finances and spending more time having sex!!! :P But i'm just your average american male though. and then i would say we need to spend less time going over our finances and spending even more time having sex!! :P

[WiseMoneyMatters]

My wife and I have talked and continue to talk extensively about both subjects.

The result: A better financial budget and a much better sex life.

[Maisie]

I am in the same situation as Lauren. My husband says "Whatever you do is fine with me. You know more about financial "things" than I do." This translates to "If our finances get screwed up, YOU did it!" When I try to talk to him about it, I see his eyes glaze over.

[Maisie]

I am in the same situation as Lauren. My husband says "Whatever you do is fine with me. You know more about financial "things" than I do." This translates to "If our finances get screwed up, YOU did it!" When I try to talk to him about it, I see his eyes glaze over.

[walden]

hmmm, perhaps we should talk finances while naked?!?!

I bet that would get my fiance's attention! :)

[Maisie]

I am in the same situation as Lauren. My husband says "Whatever you do is fine with me. You know more about financial "things" than I do." This translates to "If our finances get screwed up, YOU did it!" When I try to talk to him about it, I see his eyes glaze over.

[Strick]

At the first of the month, my wife and I sit down budget our resources. We plan out every single detail step by step and promise to stick to it. Anything out of the ordinary is discussed so there are no big surprises. We also each get our own "fun" allowance to do with as we wish. This has helped make for a solid marriage where we are both involved in important decisionmaking, major goals of each partner are known and respected, and success is a joint venture that has led to us reaching new heights.

We also work together on our finances.

[TheJapChap]

@ Thought #3

HAHAHA--that's a tough one!! :-)

[LotharBot]

My wife and I talk about both, and, like WMM, have had quite a bit of success in both areas.

There's plenty to talk about regarding sex -- likes, dislikes, circumstances that change likes and dislikes, timing/pace, even what you get out of sex or want to get out of it. (I highly recommend the book "Sheet Music" by Dr. Kevin Leman.)

[Elsie]

"What is there to talk about?"

Ask and you might be surprised! ;)