Here's a story from Yahoo about a guy that went from making $200,000 a year to $25,000 because of a layoff. A FMF reader emailed me the link to it along with his thoughts, saying the following:
This one rang true with me because I am also lucky enough to make good money at a high hour job but, unlike these guys, don't assume it will last forever (nor would I want it to). This is not so much a Spend Less than you Make story, but a family that didn't take advantage of the huge salary that it had for 15 good years.
A $1million home and $200 bottles of wine on a $200k salary? I guess this is normal because the article completely paints him a victim saying he "diligently managed" his family budget, stayed out of cc debt (like the $800k mortgage doesn't hurt enough), and had an emergency fund. I agree that is good money management if you're making $30K/year (I've been there too). But all I can think is that if he had bought a $600K home (he had a $200K down payment) and had saved 1/3rd of his huge salary over his 15 years of hard work/high pay/good luck, he could leave the city and do whatever he wants to, no matter what it pays. At the age of 38. With his kids still so young. What a waste.
Seems a hard worker, so maybe the luck will come around again, but he's already squandered so much I'm not sure I'd want that luck wasted on him.
Some good thoughts here, IMO. My additions:
1. There WILL be rainy days. Whether it's a major unexpected expense, a health-related problem, or being let go from a job, things will happen. That's why you need an emergency fund of six month's expenses. They had an emergency fund, but it doesn't say how big it was.
2. In addition, having extra ways (other than your salary) of making money will soften any blow, especially a job loss. So whether it's income thrown off from investments, a hobby that adds a bit of side income, or a second job that you can work when needed, a "plan B" can often help.
3. He certainly over-bought on the house and didn't do himself any favors. He stretched his money a bit too and as a result was susceptible to bigger problems than normal if his income stopped. If he'd followed my formula for buying a home (and/or what the reader above suggested), he'd certainly be in better shape.
4. Where's the other savings besides the emergency fund? For someone making that sort of salary, certainly he has other money stashed away somewhere, doesn't he?
5. I know many of you don't want to hear this, but part of the problem is that he lives in a very expensive city. This probably kept him from saving as much as he could have otherwise. (I know some of you are going to say "yeah, but he would have earned less too." To you I say "look at the numbers". On average, you'll save more than you'll lose by moving to a lower cost-of-living city.) One option this guy has is to move to a much cheaper city and start over since his current job experience isn't doing anything for him. Then again, it may be hard for him to sell his home, so he may be stuck.
I agree with the reader -- this family wasted an opportunity (having a high income and didn't manage it correctly) -- and is now paying the price. That said, good for him that he's willing to do whatever it takes, even working at a job that's several notches below what he was doing before, to get his family through the trouble.



The Price You Pay for Pride and Prejudice
The following is a guest post from Neal Frankle, CFP from Wealth Pilgrim.
A couple weeks ago, I had a post linked to from a popular website and many new readers visited Free Money Finance. Unfortunately, one of them made a comment that was either on the line or over it (depending on your point of view) from a decency standpoint. I debated back and forth what to do with the comment, but ultimately decided to leave it up since my on-going policy has been to leave all but the very worst up as I hate censorship (don't believe me, then see what I leave up on many of my Sunday posts.) Anyway, since the comment was about Jews, I asked Neal for his take on it before I made my final decision. He's Jewish and I thought would have a better perspective on the comment. He said it was certainly offensive, but he thought my response/comments on the post were good. In addition, he volunteered to write this guest post about the costs of prejudice.
Your preconceived notions about other people are costing you a fortune so stop it right now – for your own good.
I learned this lesson at the wee age of 12 when my father took me to meet a client of his – Mr. Williams. The client happened to be African American and lived in a run-down part of Los Angeles. Once the meeting was over I asked my father how that man could possibly have been an important client. I told my father that Mr. Williams probably didn’t have any money anyway. I based my statements on the man’s color and where he lived.
Turns out Mr. Williams was my father’s most important client.
My dad was ashamed of what I said and he spared no effort in “explaining” how stupid my racist comment was. The fact that I meant no harm really wasn’t relevant he explained. He told me that racism hurts people and he was right.
It was painful at the time but I’m glad he said what he did.
I’m not proud of that incident but I am happy I got to learn that lesson when I was young.
I was reminded of the importance of this lesson a couple weeks ago when I stumbled on a comment made by somebody at Free Money Finance. The commenter suggested that if you wanted to bargain with a vendor, it was best to “act like a Jew”.
This stupid remark elicited some very angry responses as you might expect. At the end of the day, both the person who made the remark and the people who responded in anger paid a heavy price.
I wish that I could say that I haven’t uttered a racist remark since the day my father pointed out how hurtful such remarks are. Sadly, I haven’t done as good a job on this as I would like. I’ve made mistakes. Writing this post is one small effort to make amends for those errors.
I do know however that racist remarks add nothing positive. Quite the opposite – my slips in this area hurt me and everyone around me. It prevents me from forging relationships that could be meaningful, educational and profitable. It releases negative energy that is hurtful to everyone caught in its wake.
You or I might make an off-color joke. We might restate something hurtful that we’ve heard others say. But let’s just stop. We’ve got enough pain. Let’s work together to stop this needless exchange that keeps us apart.
I’m going to try my best to be mindful in this area. How about you?
Posted on July 01, 2009 at 03:45 PM in Commentary | Permalink | Comments (17)