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January 21, 2008


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Wow. Personally, I think kids are not that important, but each to their own. I'm not convinced by industrial surrogacy, I feel like there's going to be some consequence that we've missed.

Like plonkee, I wouldn't be surprised if there are things we're missing. At the same time, it may be very meaningful to some people to help out those who can't have babies...and make a good living while doing it.

I don't think I could be a surrogate because I don't know if I'd want to give up the baby.

That's nuts....

I can understand number 1 - I don't think I could ever adopt... However, if my wife and I are unable to naturally have a kid, I think we'll just accept that God has other plans for us......

I have actually read a lot about this, and I don't think it's a bad thing at all. Surrogate mothers have been a reality for a long time in our culture, and no one sees those women as being taken advantage of or manipulated. The truth is that being a surrogate CAN change the life of an Indian woman - and her whole family - forever. It gives them the financial means to own real estate and send their children to college. And yes, it saves the American mother lots of money. As the industry stands now, it's a win-win for everyone. I could see how certain companies might go in and try to exploit the Indian women, but as long as the business remains highly regulated and safe then I see no problem with it.

No, adoption is a cheap and viable alternative! Our adoption only cost $4500 and it is FULLY reimbursable by taxes. I would go with an American or even international adoption anyday over creating a new child that is replacing one that probably needs a lot of what you can offer.

I don't think it's exploitation, and I do think that it changes the financial equation for infertile couples drastically. Most international adoptions have a comparable cost, and domestic private-party adoptions are much more costly, usually without a guarantee that the birth mother will give up the child after it is born.

The only cost-effective option for couples today is adoption through state-run agencies... and many couples shy away from this, as it is usually older children who have been taken away from abusive families and are more likely to act out.

my sister in law (in the US) is has been a surrogate twice and had three children. She's had several children of her own. She just loves being pregnant. The money helped their family buy a house and do some renovations on it...

There is certainly no explotation there. This is an all expenses paid deal including maternity clothes, a nanny for her current children during the last trimester, maid service, trips to the home location of the couple (she went to london a couple times with one of the 'jobs').

This isn't a bad deal is you're making $8 an hour at your regular job.

I generally think that people shouldn't be so hung up on a genetically related child. There are plenty of children in the world who could use a good home.

BTW this isn't just for the rich. The last couple that she worked with went way WAY in debt to be able to pay for this....

I can understand why someone wants a biological child. But if you are not meant to have any child of your own, and you got one through a surrogate mother, shouldn't you just adopt when you want a second kid? Isn't trying to get two biological children, just because you can afford it, being a little greedy?

It's a good deal for the women, and probably a good deal for the parents.

My question would be over the legal issues. Specifically, what happens if the surrogate mother changes her mind at (or after) the last minute, the way bio-mothers in adoptions can and do? Will Indian courts enforce the contract as-written? If not, will American courts order cops to come to your home and reposess the baby for deportation back to India?

The problem with adoption isn't necessarily the cost (although depending on circumstances, it can cost an awful lot), it's the uncertainty. Until the adoption had been final for six months, it could be rescinded at any time on a whim. And it can be rescinded even after that, if an unknown father reappears in the picture to challenge it. Adoptive parents can never be truly secure in the stability of their families until the child turns 18. Surrogacy deals with some of these concerns, but does not completely erase the possibility that the birth mother might change her mind...and given the hell that many couples in the US have gone through, with a far more developed legal system, I'd be hesitant to trust Indian contract law on this until there have been some test cases.

I don't truck with the "exploitation" claim, though. These women aren't being dragged off the street, strapped into the stirrups, and forcibly inseminated. They're freely choosing to take on the responsibility, and they're getting paid very well for it.

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