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August 08, 2009


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Seriously the absolute best way to save on a wedding is to limit attendance to family and very close friends and hold it in someone's home.

You do not have to "keep up with the Joneses" by throwing the party of the century or giving everyone you know a night (or a week!) of free entertainment. Save your energy & $ for your future life together, instead.

I plan to offer my kids a choice, here's X $'s for your wedding or X $'s for your down payment on a place.. No matter how the market performs, I would suggest, they take the money and place it towards an asset not the wedding..

Good golly. Even living in a high-cost state, I can't imagine spending $200+ on the wedding gift of anyone but a sibling.

My brother is getting married in two months and I have budgeted $250 for the gift (whatever it ends up being since they don't have a registry yet).

It's not that I want to spend that much, but I feel like I'm supposed to spend a lot. Or give something big.

In New York, $250 per couple is probably the minimum amount to give at a wedding. My wife and I usually give $300 and, trust me, we are pretty cheap.

Very interesting information. These dollar figures are much higher then I would have thought.

This looks about right. We gave quite a bit more than $200 to my husband's sister for her wedding, and my cousin's parents gave us several thousand. For friends we usually give around $100. I guess we're Asian, though, and we always give cash gifts.

It varies a little bit depending how far we're expected to travel, but we generally give around $200-$300 for family members and around $100 for friends. Always cash, it's what people really want anyway despite flowery language about "spending quality time" picking gifts and "thinking about the couple's personalities".

This post reminds me that I like weddings and almost always have fun at them, but hate all the passive aggression and snottiness that often surround them. The people getting married (and their families) often seem to forget that they're not the centre of everyone else's universe and the guests often seem to assume all couples are scorekeeping over gifts ... and both sides find etiquette faults all over the place.

When the wife and I had the wedding in Hawaii, the avg gift to us was about $300 in cash, some less, some much more.

For one of my close friends I bought him and a wife a $450 tent from REI. Distant friend may be $100 or less.

Another close friend (former colleague) who got married in Thailand- I gave him the equivalent of $600 in cash.

Siblings are going to get several thousand, in cash, each. Fortunately I only have 2.

Normally I'm pretty frugal but will splurge at giving wedding gifts of cash to close friends or family.


I've seen some wedding invitation cards that read something like "no gifts please." If you ask me that is awesome sauce. I'll do that on my wedding. No gift necessary. Just come and bless us and enjoy the food that costs about $10 per person. I think I'll probably have about 250 guests. That's just $2,500. Throw in antoher $2,500 for all the festivities. Let's get crazy and throw in another $2,500. A total of for $7,500 an event of your life is not that much.

But since I'm Muslim and allowed four wives, I have to multiply that by 4 to get $30,000. I wonder if I can use laws of diminishing return in each successive wedding to cut down the costs... (Nah, I'm just kidding about four wives thing. One wife's fine for me. :p)

The average gift size for relatives is going to be inflated by large gifts from parents or other very close relatives.

If you have 20 people and Mom & Dad give $2000 and everyone else gives $100 then that averages out to $200 range. But that doesn't mean typical uncles/aunts, siblings and cousins are giving $200 typically.

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